Breaking Down Good Vibes
I like to write when inspired to write. A blog requires scheduled frequent writing. People choose a topic and write about it. They usually write about the same topic whether it be books they read, recipes they tried, trips they went on ect… I rarely choose a topic and then tell you what I know about that topic. I don’t even converse that way. I write about experiences, emotions, observations and how I perceive them. That takes a slowing down, getting into my head and finding the words that will communicate what I find there. But really, it boils down to free flow writing. I just start writing and see what happens. I approach a lot of things I do in this way. I don’t think those who know me would describe me as a calculated person. I’m pretty free form. This is not to be confused with aimless or whatever word describes the phrase, fly by the seat of your pants. I have a direction I am going in and a vision I am working towards.
I’ve known someone who became in interested in what he described as the want nothing theology in order to prevent pain or suffering. He was attempting to eliminate desires. He was trying to let go of his aspirations and all plans for the future. I believe you need to have desires, plans and ideas you are working toward. I believe the things you let go of are the expectations you put on that thing. You need those wants, you simply cannot be attached to your expectations of how they will look and feel if/when they come to fruition. Others say you should not be attached to the thing. I think you can be attached to the thing but only in that moment. We can not expect it to be the same tomorrow but that doesn’t mean we can’t love the heck out of it today.
You can not control all that happens to you. You certainly can not control other people. You can keep working towards living the best life for you. You can pivot, adjust, regroup and continue on that path even if life isn’t your best life at this moment. That’s the only choice you have. Let go of the expectations you formed when making the choices that led you to that unpleasant moment. Do not let go of your desires and plans. It is important to live, not simply exist. If you feel like you’re living your best life, REVEL IN IT. If you don’t, what can you do to change that? There is always something you can do. Even if it is something that happens only in your mind. Change your perspective on it. Find the kindest version of that story and make sure you are telling that story to yourself. Keep telling yourself that kind story full of grace until you feel that change in perspective. I guess this is what people mean when they say, stay positive or good vibes only. It’s a way of life. It’s a conscious choice that takes intent and effort. It affects how you feel, how you view the world, the way you feel about and treat others. Good vibes only isn’t about being nice and smiley. Being nice can be faked and smiles can be cold. It is an inner peace that you extend to others. It is a large amount of grace towards yourself and the people in your life.
Make sure you are living out your dreams, appreciating what that looks like today and not becoming attached to what you think it will look like tomorrow. It might not look the same tomorrow. You might have to pivot. Have, give and receive big love and feelings while also knowing it is not forever. Even your feelings and dreams change. You might fear losing that thing you love and end up feeling differently about it before anything changes. All that fear or worry for nothing. I believe this is what is meant by live in the moment.
In this moment, I am in a coffee shop sitting at a high top table in the corner. Music is softly playing and there is a low drone of voices. Two people near me have met for coffee to get to know one another because they are new colleagues. Her voice carries right to me, his is muffled. I start to come out of writing and out of my head. I am ready to leave, walk out into the world and free flow through it.
